It's okay to be not okay

                                                       

To be very honest , Mental health was the last topic on my priority list at which I wanted to  hover the pointer of discussion not because I undermine the weight of this issue but because the entire globe of internet is swamped with zillionth of unsolicited advices by every Tom, Dick and Harry with each one of them being a snotband giving troglodytic and hogwash solutions guaranteeing to rope you out from the whirlpool of Mental crisis

The only reason why I decided to pick this issue was because it's painful to witness the precarious picture of how the entire youth community is grappling with the shackles of mental torture and yet refusing to accept it because they are petrified by the vicious labels of mockery being imposed on them by the society.

 I remember one day while attending a virtual session of  an eminent counsellor " Mel Robbins" some one raised a very intriguing question about "the bravest thing that a human being can commit at his/her level ?" To which she replied " accept that he/she is not okay and ask for help" and though at that point of time it sounded a bit preposterous  that how acceptance and asking for help are the yardstick of bravery but later that realisation sinked in that how confronting your disturbed state makes you a staunch person because our discountenance refrains us from accepting the fact that we are basking in the winds of mental disturbance maybe because we are too feared by the notion of being called as depressed

Even the society has a major role to play in this consternated state of the youth. As long as a person is incessantly posting selfies on instagram with a fake smile , burgeoning muscles and  V-shaped vest till then the society continue perceiving about him/her being in a jolly state without even a scintilla of suspicion and only after when the individual reaches out for extreme steps to show his helplessness , we realise the vortex in which he was struck and that how we have failed miserably to decipher the excruciating pain behind that fake smile. I have seen multiple cases where the person tries hard to garner bits of courage to vouchsafe his/her deranged mental state with his kins and friends but rather than offering him any help , they started attacking him with a cannonade of criticism for acting as an immature kid who is crying over trivial issues. Some where down the line such behaviour is majorly responsible for trammeling millions of youth from disclosing their state of mind with those who are in their vicinity and reach out for mental counsellors. No wonder why counselling institutions have been witnessing an exponential growth because " Every person has thousands of emotions to speak about , but no one is ready to listen" 

There are a variety of antiseptics and bandages available for curing any external wounds on your flesh but when it comes to internal bleeding , the only antiseptic that our soul pockets is that of "acceptance" and as soon as one start applying this lotion on their internal wounds ,an immediate assuage in the intensity of the pain can be noticed , however most of the time our mind and soul out of fear or hesitance are holding us back from catering to these internal wounds thereby slowly and  perpetually increasing the magnitude of pain to a level where no medication or therapy is able to expunge them. 

So it's okay to accept that you are not okay , let those fopdoodles judge you . They might call you disfunctional but believe me when you come in terms with your disfunctional state then this disfunctionality of yours becomes far more functional than their functionality. Accept the fact that yes you are broken , assimilate those broken pieces and  again rise as a stronger person because with every comeback you make from your melancholic state , you drift one step closer of becoming an Invictus human being. 

If you are full of anguish , cry your heart out 

If you are mad at something , confront it

If you don't want to laugh, stop fakng your smile

If something trembles you , accept that fear

If you are nervous , accept that nervousness

If you are annoyed at someone , openly display that annoyance

If something prods you, shout about that at top of your voice

But please for the love of the Mike do not stultify your feelings because " even joy becomes a burden when we failed to laugh"