DOMESTIC VIOLENCE- A CHOICE?

                      

Today one of my pal shot an intriguing question about domestic violence that why in india women body is  still being treated as an domitable entity experiencing bruises on her soul mind and flesh of anger and frustation being emanated by her masculine counterpart or any other male entity? and even if she somehow manages to extricate herself from this incessant cycle of violence why her daughter shares the same fate after marriage and also why her son showers the same rage and frustation on her wife that exterminated her mother's life once?

The former questions placed my mind in an abysmal state of thinking . After pondering my thoughts for hours seeking for the answer I realised that the life cycle of every creature on this planet is compartmentalized into three vital sections - 

1) BIRTH

2) GROWING STAGE

3)DEATH

And though any creature in this entire universe lacks the power to mould the section of birth and death , the cycle of growing up is something that falls within the ambit of that very creature , the only cycle where the divine entrust the creature and shoulders him with a certain sense of responsibility for its maintenance . 

In this process of growing up willingly or unwillingly the creature acquires certain traits, habits, attitude or behaviour depending upon his environment , teachings/guidance being provided by his parents etc. One of the vital components that a creature acquires in his process of growing up is " attitude" of either being subdued or the attitude of being indormitable. A lion's cub from the very onset of his birth is fed with the habit of hunting and because of that he never thinks twice before attacking a zebra , simmilarly a zebra from the very starting of his birth is fed with an attitude of being subdued and because of that he perpetually fears the lion throughout his life without even retaliating once or without even knowing his strengths. Unfortunately the conditioning of zebra has been carried out in such a manner that he has to jump out of his skin on seeing a lion? Have you ever wondered why  zebra refuses to fight a lion without  a fight , maybe the zebra is potent enough to kick lion's ass but he avoids doing so , this is because he was never trained for it , zebra always saw his parents , comrades running for their lives on seeing a lion , he was always trained to make a  run. No wonder had the zebra retaliated in the very first instance of his encounter with the lion , the wild cat would had expunged the very thought of attacking the zebra ever again.

The same principle of Retaliation and subjugation applies on human being. When a marriage takes place , the elements of respect of family and fear of society are induced in the mind of the bride. She is asked to zip her lips for the sake of  family's respect even if that marriage meant a compromise with her own individuality, freedom ,liberty. Such shallow principles govern the feminine world thereby making their male better halves to act as Lucifer and introduce hell in their lives.  When a wife refuse to answer back her husband or ignores the violent behaviour being depicted by her male counterpart because of some banter reasons, it adds to the courage of the husband. When the wife turns a blind eye rather than pinpointing her husband's mistake than rather than feeling remorse about committing  such a revulsive sin , the husband starts viewing such aggressive behaviour as means of not only silencing her wife in all his wrong deeds but also feels it obligatory for maintaining patriarchal administration in the house and sooner or later such aggressive acts slowly and gradually becomes the part and parcel of women's life. It induces a sense of delusion within the husband regarding his menism which will only surface up by the means of violence on his better half. No wonder this false sense of superiority enraptures him to such an extent that he tends to raise his hand even on the slightest opportunity or suspicion grabbed by him.

When a daughter sees her mother being made to cater needs of her father on a leash it leaves a tormenting impression on her fragile mind. She somewhere deep in her accepts that she has to share the same fate as of her mother.The environment in which she has been raised conditions her to accept such atrocity and remain silenced about it,  Simmilarly the aggressive and abusive behaviour of  father ,  leaves a ever lasting impression on son's mind , induces a sense that committing violence on any female is hoity-doity thing and therefore in later part of his life drama when he plays the role of a husband , he starts imitating his father deluding violence as means of establishing supremacy in the relationship and debilitating his wife's swashbuckling spirit

No ngo or organisation can save a woman from this vicious cycle of torment until and unless that very woman learns the art of retaliation. Until and unless women start reverting back with the same magnitude and intensity in case of violence until then husband's will keep on portraying women body as some fragile entity upon which they can shower their rage to lighten up their moods.

 "THAPPAD MARA TOH MARA KAISE" until and unless  such attitude is taken up by our daughters, wifes , girl-friends till then no  remedy in this world can assuage the bruises of violence on their soul and flesh. To all the families out there who believe that their daughter should remain in mum state to all the torments being thrown at her just for the sake of their respect, I am sorry to say this you all are a taint on the humanity and an eclipse on nation's development. To all the husband's out there who feel that their loud voices and violent actions can curb spirit of a women , a special place in hell is booked for your lot, all of you are perfect embodiments of filthy rodents in apparels.

Women is a sanctimonious creation of God , learn to treat her in the same manner. To all the husband out there,  it's your duty to foster an environment for your wives where they are free to express their opinions, exercise their choices , participate in family matters  and have the audacity to pinpoint all the males of the house in their wrong/immoral deeds. Try showing love and compassion for her and see how she turns the tables of your luck , how her roles and acts ensure a perpetual source of prosperity at your family's doorstep , disrespect her and be ready to witness her garnered wrath potent of cataclysmic extermination